When Someone Stops Loving You: The Painful Truth About Letting Go

 By Sicebise Msengana 

I know it hurts.

The kind of hurt that makes your chest feel too small for all the sadness you're carrying. The kind of hurt that keeps you awake at night, replaying memories and conversations, searching for answers that may never come.

Understanding Rejection: A Journey Through Love

 By Sicebise Msengana

Rejection is a bittersweet experience that many lovers encounter at some point in their romantic endeavors. It’s a topic that can evoke a myriad of emotions, from sadness and disappointment to confusion and anger. Navigating the complexities of rejection is essential for personal growth and emotional resilience.

Be African and Proud

By Sicebise Msengana

I always see the self-hating attitudes towards Africa as coping mechanisms against the 500 year-old racist anti-African propaganda. People whose ancestors suffered slavery and social degradation developed certain survival traits to cope with their surroundings. The invention of races was one of the darkest moments in human history , W. E. B. Du Bois makes the following observation: “There came a new doctrine of universal labor: mankind were of two sorts—the superior and the inferior; the inferior toiled for the superior; and the superior were the real men, the inferior half men or less.”

READING LIST 2017

By Sicebise Msengana

It's that time again, where I get to read books until 3 a.m in the morning. Every year I make my book recommendations to the public. This year is no different.

Black Love is REVOLUTIONARY!

By Sicebise Msengana

A Xhosa couple. 

BLACK LOVE is REVOLUTIONARY. There's no BLACK POWER/ UNITY/PRIDE without BLACK LOVE. BLACK LOVE is the key to our liberation and empowerment as a people. 

The Universe Owes us Nothing Except For the Gift of Life and Luck

By Sicebise Msengana

Do you struggle to find meaning in life? Are you feeling powerless and at the mercy of circumstances in your life? What if The Universe Owes us Nothing Except For the Gift of Life and Luck could motivate you to take responsibility for your life and live a life of purpose, happiness and freedom in spite of current painful situations in your life? Does it sound too good to be true? 

Well, it’s not. Come along for a bumpy, yet a realistic ride and discover what lies ahead. 

The Universe Owes us Nothing Except For the Gift of Life and Luck tells human accomplishment and tragedy from an African-centred perspective. This book comes along personal and historic overview of how things are the way they are and what we need to do to create a better world for the future generations. 

White Scams Part 4: DEADLY GAMES

By Sicebise Msengana

Hey Becky watch your filthy mouth about Black women!

When Black men lack self-control & are throughly brainwashed, they're set up for DESTRUCTION & GENOCIDE!

As an African man, I don't think it is a wise thing for brothas to sit idle & not protect the image of Black women. Why? Your DIGNITY & MANHOOD depends on how Black women are treated.

As long as Black women are DEGRADED, BASHED & UNPROTECTED, you won't make it in this existing political & economic system. To compete with European and Asian males, Black men need to build economic power, political clout and control all industries with Black women.

Don't Take Things Personally

By Sicebise Msengana

"Don't take every rejection or break up personally. Get over it and don't let it define who you are." - Sicebise Msengana

Anti-African Manhood Racism in Black America Part 1

By Sicebise Msengana

Okay, we get you hate Black men. There's no need to lump us all with inferior minded Black men.  There are two things to be learned from this typical response:

 (a) Prejudice in the Black community is instrumental in other people taking advantage of Africans everywhere, they may be.

African Manhood Part III: Xhosa Men

By Sicebise Msengana

Sacrifice is part of Afrikan manhood. We sacrifice ourselves for those we love.  Afrikan men practice love to Afrikan women by supporting Black families and providing leadership.

2 Ways Individualism and Exceptionalism Kills the Black Revolution: Should Black Men Date out?

By Sicebise Msengana

I don’t know whether we African men should date or sleep with white women or not ( i.e. Non-African females) to prove that we don’t hate non-African people, in particular, white people.

Every time we talk about building for ourselves, everyone else seems to have a problem. Yet, they can exclude us with no problem. When we African men say that it is impossible to build strong African

This is How You Lose Her

By Sicebise Msengana

I've heard guys say things like "I can't show her too early how much I love her. She might manipulate my weaknesses." To a great extent,  it is true. Some women have a very warped

African erotica: BabyMaking Music

By Sicebise Msengana

I wanted to make this article race neutral and non-political as possible as I can, however,  I couldn’t help but think that it is near impossible to understand the problems of Africans without a social-political context.
It is impossible to understand why one race can enhance itself at the expense of another race by destroying their love life without a social-political context.

African Erotica: Chocolate Fantasy

By Sicebise Msengana

ROMANCE in the African context is one that is ignored by various scholars and researchers. But Africans have been falling in love for thousands of years. Love-making was and still is essential to the survival of our race. Our ancestors in ancient Egypt and Nubia, had been the creators and mothers of African civilisations and it was vital for them to know about this knowledge.

6 Ways Fear Prevents Us From Enjoying a Healthy Relationship

By Sicebise Msengana

One of the reasons why relationships are falling apart has to do with insecurities. Reason being that, some of us are very shallow men, and look for nothing more than a beautiful face and a big booty.

Weekend Inspiration

By Sicebise Msengana

1. Life is like a camera. Just focus on what’s important, capture the good times, develop from the negatives, and if things don’t turn out – take another shot. — Unknown

How to Get and Keep a Black Guy

By Sicebise Msengana

Are you a white woman or a non-African female struggling to find a black guy? Do you wish you could date or even marry a black dude?

What if I told you that you could solve all of your life’s problems and live a life full of love and sexual freedom while being “possessed” by a strong, loving black man?

Signs That She is Cheating on You

By Sicebise Msengana

DISCLAIMER: I’m not an expert in relationship (or marriage) stuff. But I have dated women longer enough to figure out what the heck is on women’s minds. The best thing to do would probably be seeing a marriage/relationship counsellor.

How to Start a Religion in 12 Easy Ways

By Sicebise Msengana

Are you constantly stressed out and broke as an African? Do you want to enjoy life and take full advantage of opportunities? Do you wish to have an intimate relationship with your loved ones or spouse or partner?
In fact, it’s simple, and any African can do it. I have an idea of starting a religio-political cult. You can follow along at home.

African Manhood pt2

By Sicebise Msengana

African manhood: The family unit is ESSENTIAL to the black man’s DIGNITY. African men rarely talk about 'women’s weaves' and this and that, what dresses 'SHOULD Black women wear' and this and that etc.

Instead, we look at it as a way for black women to SURVIVE in a white supremacist society that is hostile to all black people—including those black folks who wear locks or wear their hair in its natural form.