DISCLAIMER: I’m not an expert in relationship (or marriage) stuff. But I have dated women longer enough to figure out what the heck is on women’s minds. The best thing to do would probably be seeing a marriage/relationship counsellor.
I’ve heard from most guys, that “If I show her too early my feelings; she will manipulate my weaknesses”, which is a great deal of it is true. There are many instances where a woman manipulates a man. I know a guy who is raising a baby that’s not his.
They were all hugging and kissing and all of a sudden, the baby arrived and he has been having doubts ever since. One day he asked his girlfriend, “Is this really my child?” The mother of child replied, “Who do you think you’re? We have been having sex, all the time and where do you think you were cuming on?” That answer shocked me!
He saw the signs but chose to ignore them. I mean, the girl was cheating on him, for all to see. In December 2015, the woman was busted sleeping with another man.
Now he is stuck with this baby. I’m not suggesting that he should leave the baby and its mother, but he deserves some closure: the baby is not his. Plain and simple. But it's not my place to mingle in people's relationships.
Here are the signs that she is cheating on you:
1. She’s not into sex lately. You hardly have sex and when you have it, it is just “casual” and meaningless. She is always “tired” or “busy” for you.
2. Can’t clearly communicate with you. Sometimes you ask her “what’s on your mind?” She will tell you to “mind” your own business.
3. Always on the phone. It is not normal to be having conversations with male friends at 2.am. It sounds rather corny for a woman to waking up in the middle of the night to strike up a conversation with a man.
4. Excuses, excuses, excuses. This woman is full of tricks to cover up her tracks. One of her tricks , is to break promises and jump to conclusions. For example, she’ll tell you that she is coming home.
Several hours pass and she’s still not yet arrived. But when you confront her. She will get angry and say things like “If you don’t like me, it’s over” or get into a rage and insists “You don’t like me,” if you dare to confront her.
5. She lies. As I’ve said before, the signs are there but we choose to ignore them because we are caught up with the idealisation (or infatuation) of our partners. Porn sites, sexting, phone calls? You’ll ask her “Where were you last night?” She will tell you 3 different stories about her whereabouts.
6. Accuse you of cheating. Cheating people like to project themselves unto others. Even if you are most loyal guy in the town.
7. Flirt with other men in front of you. She still want to be available to other guys, despite being with you.
8. Sudden change in her behaviour. A sudden change in her behaviour may be seen in the following behaviours:
• Sex is not enjoyable as it used to be. It’s empty and dull. It decreases.
• When she’s going out, she makes it a point to look “extra” sexy and wears provocative clothing.
• Her phone is off limits lately. It has a password or pin or a pattern. She gets some sort of anxiety when you are using her phone or computer.
• Everything is always your fault. In her own mind, she’s perfect. Notice that she does nothing wrong.
• She’s always out with her friends and she's "hard to get" and won't spend time with you. Phone conversations become shorter and are ended abruptly because she has some “stuff to take care.”
In conclusion, this is not a bash on women. But to show internal contradictions, that keep people from enjoying their relationships.
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