What real men do

By Sicebise Msengana

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It was a lazy Saturday of December 2008, I was fast asleep on my bed. Suddenly, I had a loud noise on  my door.''Wake up, Sicebise.'' I was dreaming about that girl again! Worse yet, I was angry because my uncle had disturbed me. As we were working he told me something remarkable. He said, ''being a man is about responsibilities.'' What does it mean to be a man? It doesn't matter which

Never Give Up No Matter What

By Sicebise Msengana

Pic: Odaiallame

The story goes like this: during the California Gold Rush, there was a man who sold everything he had and bought a mine. He worked for many years and found nothing. Finally, being discouraged he gave up and sold it to people who lived in the East. Several years later, the new owners decided to dig the mine for gold. They found the pick where the previous owner had abandoned it. And they started to dig, and before long they found gold. They had dug only twelve inches--the previous miner had been twelve inches short of the gold!

Often we give up too soon. We give up at the first sight of failure. How many people give up on their careers, relationships, families, lives (commit suicide) too soon? I don't know what you are

Life is unfair but get used to it

By Sicebise Msengana

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Many of us will do just about anything to avoid  serious issues in this world. Its easier to pretend that everything is okay. Growing up we all knew that Prince Charming married the beautiful princess and they lived happily ever after...but in real life, there's no such thing. In fact, each day comes with a new tragedy. A newlywed couple is killed in a plane crash on their way to their honeymoon, a small kid is diagnosed with a life threatening disease dies in her mother's arms,  scores of innocent people are murdered each day, earthquakes, tornadoes and many natural disasters claim so many lives

Seven ways to happiness

By Sicebise Msengana

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Everyone wants to be happy, and there is no doubt that for most of us, being in a good mood is more pleasant than being in a bad one. But how many of us can say we have attained such a standard? Happiness and serenity are sought after, longed for, by men and women everywhere, but are rarely found. What makes people happy?

1. Explore spirituality.  For some people, being spiritual or religious, means going to church every Sunday. Worshipping at a local mosque. For others, it means going to a quiet place to meditate and reflect on life. Whatever you call it, meditation and praying can help with slowing breathing and brain activity, reduced heart rate and blood pressure. The physiological benefits of prayer and meditating include anti-ageing, deep rest, and easier

10 Qualities of good leaders

By Sicebise Msengana

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The late Nelson Mandela, a lawyer and politician, was an outstanding leader. The way he led South Africa into democracy became one of the greatest marvels of the 20th Century. Which proves beyond doubt that good leaders take a lead. You may have heard the frequent comments, ''He is a born leader'' or ''Leaders are born.'' But how true are those statements? There are certain characteristics found in some people that seem to naturally put them in a position where they're looked up to as a leaders. What is a good leader?


A servant. The most respected and most powerful leaders are those who serve the people in their care. Mother Teresa gave her life in serving the most loathed, unloved and outcasts of India's poor. In her

Are you waiting for a miracle to be happy again?

By Sicebise Msengana

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Sometimes you look at your life and wonder what went wrong. You look at your past and wish you can undo those mistakes and re-live life. Are you feeling miserable over what you have no control? Do you feel sad, empty, used, and broken? If yes, why don't you make necessary changes to your life? What is your plan to overcoming loneliness, boredom, feeling inadequate? Sleeping? Drugs? Alcohol? Facebook? Yes, these things are good distractions for temporary pleasure, but for how long? How long will this go on? One thing is for sure, happiness is a personal choice. It starts and ends with personal responsibility. Aristotle once said, " Happiness depends upon ourselves.''


Share your feelings. Feelings need to be shared. Don't bottle them up. Talk, talk, talk until you feel light. Talking gets heavy feelings out. When we suppress our emotions, they become like a volcano that is ready to explode. So share them with a trusted friend, family member, and a pastor.