I'm a huge fan of marriage, but I'm not a naive or an inexperienced man. Being a traditional/patriarchal man and active in the Manosphere community shaped my experiences about marriage. Modern marriages are falling apart because people get married when they are tired of playing around. Marriage has became a retirement plan for broken, hurt and tired people.
Hence, the first 3 men she dates shapes her umjolo or dating experiences. The number of men she has dated will determine her loyalty and how she will treat you. Women, from what I've seen, will take the best, her favourite, quality of a man with whom she has had a relationship and add that quality to her "list." For example, her virgin breaker or the guy who would smash until her walls collapse.
It's her checklist that will test/rate all future prospects. In other words, every man who comes after that experience will be judged according to that list. The more qualities on the list (more are added because the body count increases) the more difficult it is to live up to the unrealistic expectations of the list. Her loyalty and how she will treat you depends on her that list. You will be punished severely if you are a beta male because she's an alpha widow. A woman who has been fucked in every hole or handled more cocks 🐓 than a poultry farmer will always reminisce about the "good days" and you will sexually disgust her because you don't live up to her past escapades.
The brain releases oxytocin during sex which can be addictive causing people to seek more partners, before marriage. It's highly likely you will want that experience again which will require more intimate partners in order to find a suitable replacement. If you only have one partner (your spouse) you will either never know what you're missing or you will communicate (like all couples should) the good & the bad, both will listen & both will attend to the other's needs & desires.
Pair bonding: women pair bond quickly which becomes a problem after many partners. Men pair bond more slowly.
Studies have shown that women with 0-1 partners before marriage (either wedding night sex or sex with spouse before marriage) have the lowest divorce rates, around 5%.
Women with exactly 2 partners (one before marriage and her husband) have the 2nd highest divorce rate, 30%. (It's assumed that having "just" 2 partners creates a comparison dynamic that puts the husband and the other man in competition, sexually, in the woman's mind.)
Women with 3, 4-5 & 6-9 partners before marriage have divorce rates of 27%, 25% & 28% respectively. Women with 9+ partners before marriage have the highest divorce rate at 33%+.
Furthermore, most married men are suckers or simps. They follow "happy wife happy life" mantra. Which is the reason why most wives fall out of love with their husbands. He lost his frame the day he said, "I do." He is bullied and told what to do by his now domineering wife.
Most people when they get married, they say they "love each other" on their wedding day. In western culture, their idea of marriage is "falling in love" and that's they have highest divorce rate in the world.
Marriage is not about love. Our ancestors never made commitments based on love only. They understood love is a temporary feeling that can change anytime. Love depends on external variables that's why people fall in love and out of love. It is not unconditional. Love based on western ideologies is unsustainable and inconsistent. In Afrikan culture, marriage is not about love, but purpose and commitment.
Commitment is fulfillment, accomplishment, purpose and appreciation of your partnership in building a legacy, family and sustaining life.
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